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The Ordinary Moments #1 - Taking time out of being a parent, can it be done?



So I'm joining in with The Ordinary Moments hosted by Katie and Donna for the first time this year. I was meaning to join in 2016 but it was a year of chaos and everything was so hectic all the damn time that I just never got round to it. 
This year I'm hoping things slow down a bit (please god) and I can focus on finding some joy rather than stress in our ordinary moments.
This week of January has carried on much the same as 2016 ended. Lots of illness that quite frankly at this stage just needs to do one. Archer's over the worst of his I think. Although he's still teething like mad and having his miserable moments (look at his sad face in the above photo!) he seems much better than previous weeks. I've never really referred to that wonder weeks list that often does the rounds but I do find myself wondering whether he may be out of a leap now (and how long have I got before the next?)

No this week has mostly been full of poorlyness for me. I dont know whats going on with my body but I've been ill on and off since September and it's becoming such a flipping inconvenience. I'm guessing it's because I'm not having time to rest and therefore recover properly so a few weeks later the cycle of becoming run down and feeling rotten just starts all over again. It's always the same, headaches and feeling shivery shortly followed by aching limbs and an almighty cold. ugh.

I mentioned in my New Years Resolutions vlog that this year I'm determined to start taking care of myself more and so I actually put that resolution in to practice this week. Normally when I'm under the weather, no matter how poorly I am, I just battle on. I'm one of those annoying suffer in silence dont want to ask for help kind of people as so many of us are. I often see admitting I need some help as a weakness, which is ridiculous because if I were to see any other parent asking for help I wouldn't view them as weak at all. The thought wouldn't even cross my mind. Infact I'd probably admire them. So I'm not sure why I would give myself such a hard time but it's definately a mind set I've been trying to change.

Anyhow today and yesterday I've decided for want of a better phrase to just fuck it. To hell with plodding on. I'm staying in bed resting and drinking lemsip until I'm better. I'm fully taking advantage of the fact that I happen to be ill on a weekend and my partners actually around in the day for once. And that's exactly what I said to my OH.  Who luckily was more than happy to entertain the kids because he's superdad. 
And so here I am on a Sunday evening, after two solid days of rest, still feeling a bit peaky but feeling so so much better than I was. I'm so glad I gave myself a break and took these days out for myself because if I hadn't I'd be on my knees trying to do the pre-school run tommorow and it would probably all end in tears and with an out of hours appointment!

I also got to enjoy quiet moments by myself whilst James took the kids out which helped me to really and genuinely appreciate those ordinary moments. Drinking a cup of tea that's still hot instead of lukewarm for example. & reading a book...I actually had the time to read without being pestered! amazing.

So the moral of this story, for anyone who may be reading and feels like they too may be on the verge of a breakdown. Physical or mental. There's people around you who love you and are there for you to rely on. A lot of whom would probably jump at the chance to look after your little monsters darlings. Take some time out for yourself and don't waste time feeling guilty. You deserve and your body too deserves to have time to heal. & kids need a fully functioning mother. to an extent ;) so you're doing it for them too. 

Have a nice week, 
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8 comments

  1. Sometimes you do need to just say fuck it and do what's best for you. I'm very lucky too that my husband will also allow me to rest if I was ill. :-)
    Hope you are well rested and feeling much better x

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    1. You totally do! We are lucky to have such helpful other halfs xx

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  2. I can relate so much to this post, I have been poorly aswell since October and not been able to do the usual battle on thing. I am glad you feel a little better and here is to Spring and the loss of all the winter germs! x

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    1. Sorry to hear you've been poorly too. I'll definately raise a glass to the arrival of spring! x

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  3. I am so glad to see you linking up with The Ordinary Moments as it's introduced me to your beautiful blog. I've just added it to my Bloglovin to read regularly :) I think sometimes we do have to rest, we do have to take care of ourselves and we do have to put ourselves first. I hope you're feeling better soon and so glad you had that time in bed to focus on getting better x

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    1. Oh thankyou, that's so kind & really means a lot! :) We definately do need to put ourselves first..even if it's just once in a blue moon, it makes all the difference! :) x

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  4. It's so lovely to find your blog, I have never found it before. And I do agree, it is bloody hard and we do have to put ourselves first. I have made it my mission this year to be kinder to myself a bit more. We can't be good parents if we are burnt out and feeling like crap all the time. x

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    1. Ah thankyou, I love your blog! We definately do need to start taking more care of ourselves, we're not just mothers we're human beings too xx

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